Showing that the flow value is well defined.
Solution 1:
You should sum over all vertices.
For simplicity, I adopt the notation $x(\delta^+(v))=\sum_{e\in \delta^+(v)}x(e)$ and analogously for $\delta^-(v)$ for any $v\in V$. We have
$$\sum_{v\in V}x(\delta^+(v))=\sum_{v\in V}x(\delta^-(v))$$ because every edge is ingoing exactly once and outgoing exactly once (i.e. every edge is counted exactly once on both sides).
Then essentially subtract what you have calculated:
$$\sum_{v\in V}x(\delta^+(v))-\sum_{v\neq s,t}(\delta^+(v))=\sum_{v\in V}x(\delta^-(v))-\sum_{v\neq s,t}(\delta^-(v))$$
This holds because $\sum_{v\neq s,t}(\delta^+(v))=\sum_{v\neq s,t}(\delta^-(v))$ by the second property. But this just means
$$\delta^+(s)+\delta^+(t)=\delta^-(s)+\delta^-(t)$$
which yields the result
$$\delta^+(s)-\delta^-(s)=\delta^-(t)-\delta^+(t)$$
by a simple arrangement.