Does "Forgive me" need a pronoun before the object?
I used to say "Forgive my behavior" and I am quite sure you can say this in English. I am quite sure, if you need to use that phrase too often, there might be a social issue and any grammar issues are less important. However, in a recent conversation, just before sending out a message to a lot of our customers, I suggested using the following sentence to ask for understanding in case the message was received multiple times:
Please forgive us the duplicates.
A colleague pointed out that this is not proper English and we ended up with
Please forgive us for any duplicates.
Which definitely sounds better.
Is the former version of this sentence (without the pronoun) really invalid? Does it sound bad to a native speaker? Would the following, without pronoun, work too?
Please forgive us any duplicates.
Solution 1:
Please forgive us any duplicates.
As far as I'm aware, this is not idiomatic. However, there are two options here, relatively close to what you want.
When looking up "forgive" in the OED, notice that there are two different objects that you can use:
- I'll never forgive David for the way he treated her.
- You will have to forgive my suspicious mind
You can forgive a person, or you can forgive a mistake. Both are correct, as long as they're the object of the sentence.
That means that you have options too:
- Please forgive us [for any duplicates].
- Please forgive any duplicates [made by us].
Both mean the same thing, assuming that "us" is the only party who could be responsible for making duplicates.
Otherwise, if another party could also possibly be responsible for making duplicates, then "forgive us" seems to omit forgiving the other party, whereas "forgive any duplicates" covers both you and the other party.