Is "most pleased" pompous or condescending? [closed]

Is using the phrase "most pleased" considered pompous or condescending?

I am most pleased to extend the invitation to so-and-so...

This was used in a formal dinner invitation sent to a relative of mine, who is a traditionalist in his usage of English. He was discussing it with me and thought that the writer overdid it with "most pleased". He even suggested it made the the writer sound like royalty.

Solution 1:

To my ear, "pompous" language frequently correlates with using unnecessary words, or using complicated synonyms of simple words.
Compare: "It is my pleasure to invite you to the party" vs "I am most pleased to extend you an invitation to attend the party".

As other answers have noted, there are appropriate situations for both.

Some further thoughts on this specific example:

"It's my pleasure to..." is a common phrase if you want to be polite.
"I am pleased to..." is also common.
"I am most pleased to..." is NOT commonly used conversationally.

Just some guesses on why this sounds pompous:

1. Most of the time "being pleased" is binary: either "I am pleased" or "I am displeased".

2. Comparing different degrees of the adjective pleased is weird; there are better options. It's not actually incorrect to say "I'm more pleased with the iPhone than I was with the Android" but it's IMO better to say "I prefer the iPhone to the Android."

3. Because "I am most pleased" is not a common construction, the listener has to do a little bit extra mental work to figure out the meaning (as opposed to using a colloquialism that the listener already knows)

So, IMO, the best phrase for the speaker to A) extend a polite invitation, B) indicate that he is exceptionally happy to invite you, and C) avoid sounding pompous, is:

"It is my great pleasure to invite you..."

Solution 2:

It implies that the writer is attempting to be formal, but so long as the event is also formal, no condescension need be read into it.

'I am most pleased to invite you to the Library's 50th Anniversary Gala' is perfectly appropriate.

'I am most pleased to invite you to Timmy's fourth grade graduation' is either condescending or snarky.

As far as trying to sound royal, the speaker is not being quite so pretentious: after all, they used 'I' rather than 'We.'

Solution 3:

I trust you will find this answer most¹ satisfactory...

Most of us very rarely use most to mean very, except in ceremonial or facetious contexts.

¹Not wishing to stand on ceremony, I trust you'll honour the spirit of the answer, and award it more upvotes than any other! :)