Solution 1:

I always consult with my children who are affected by the decisions to be made.

  1. To marks the passive infinitive phrase to be made.

I always consult with my children who are affected by the decisions to be made.

  1. The principle verb consult has a relatively distant relationship with the infinitive phrase to be made, which modifies decisions.

    Decisions is the agent of the passive verb are affected in the relative clause who are affected by the decisions to be made,

    The relative clause modifies children in the prepositional phrase with my children,

    The prepositional phrase with my children modifies consult.

I always consult with my children who are affected by the decisions to be made.

  1. The construction to be + the past participle is a passive infinitive.

Definition:

An infinitive construction in which the agent (or performer of the action) either appears in a prepositional phrase following the verb or is not identified at all.

The passive infinitive is made up of the marker to + be + a past participle (also known as the -en form):

"The case is to be decided by a judge."