Is there a polite way of saying "people like you"?
It seems that "people like you" is almost always used as an insult (similar to "your kind"). e.g. A shop owner might say to an annoying customer that doesn't buy anything, "Go away, I don't have time to deal with people like you."
Can it be used in a polite sentence, or due to the associated negativity with the phrase, would it be better to use an alternate phrase?
Can it be used in a polite sentence, or due to the associated negativity with the phrase, would it be better to use an alternate phrase?
The phrase can be used in a polite way, as determined by context. When saying something positive or favorable to someone, and identifying that person as an example of others who share the same quality, people like you is perfectly polite and even complimentary. So, I may say, "Thank you for your post. People like you, who ask worthwhile, well-phrased questions, make participation in ELU a meaningful experience." Of course, the context in which the phrase is spoken, tone of voice, facial expression, etc., also help to mark the phrase as either positive or negative. The phrase itself, I take to be neutral. Nevertheless, to lessen the possibility of it being taken negatively when not meant so, a positive qualifier can always be added: splendid people like you, excellent people like you, hard-working, thoughtful, generous, etc.
The difficulty with the phrase is the distinguishing attribute - you. This smacks of emphasis on the otherness of the party addressed and those deemed to be similar. It creates a linguistic and emotional distance.
There are numerous examples of phrases that have a similar rejecting tone. The OP indicated your kind. Also, the phrases your type, your ilk and you people. Most importantly, you are not our kind, our people or folks like us.
If you are trying to convey a categorization that is neutral (or even complimentary), you generally need to add something beyond the you-ness. Consider
- people having your characteristics
- those sharing your background (or skills/talents/fine qualities)
- your fellow _____ (which can be kind or caustic, largely based on tone)
While context might make some of the you phrases acceptable or even friendly, more often than not they are intended, and will be taken to be somewhat hostile.
If the doorman (bouncer) at a nightclub says to two consecutive parties...
1: "People such as yourself/yourselves1 should go through that entrance"
2: "People like you should go through that entrance"
...you can assume the first, rather than the second, was being directed to the VIP entrance.
1yourself if addressed to a "party of one".