Is there a word to describe "being formal for the sake of being formal"?
Solution 1:
The apt words are
Prig
a person who displays or demands of others pointlessly precise conformity, fussiness about trivialities, or exaggerated propriety, especially in a self-righteous or irritating manner.
Prude
a person who is excessively proper or modest in speech, conduct, dress, etc.
Pedant
a person who overemphasizes rules or minor details.
a person who adheres rigidly to book knowledge without regard to common sense.
Solution 2:
Stuffy comes to mind -
Rigidly adhering to standards of conduct; strait-laced
excessively dull, staid, or conventional
Solution 3:
Perhaps prissy would suit your meaning:-
Excessively or affectedly prim and proper.
Solution 4:
You might consider pompous
someone who is pompous thinks they are very important and speaks or behaves in a very serious and formal way
The term also carries with it the connotation of self-important that may or may not fit your circumstances.
Solution 5:
"Formalist" could do ?
check definition here:
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/formalist http://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/formalist
For more negative emphasis: "pedant"
maybe could also do.