Derivatives of a series of monotone functions
Yes, equality holds almost everywhere. For the sake of convenience assume that $f_n \geq 0$ for all $n$, otherwise pointwise assume absolute convergence of the series so that we can replace $f_n$ by $f_n - f_n(a) \geq 0$.
Put $$F_N = \sum_{n=1}^{N} \; f_n$$ so that $F_N \to f$ everywhere and monotonically.
Choose an increasing sequence $\{N_k\}_{k=1}^{\infty}$ such that $0 \leq f(b) - F_{N_k}(b) \leq 2^{-k}$. Then we have $$ \sum_{k=1}^{\infty} \left(f(b) - F_{N_k}(b)\right) \leq 1. $$ Now put $$ g(x) = \sum_{k=1}^{\infty} \left(f(x) - F_{N_k}(x)\right) = \sum_{k=1}^{\infty} \sum_{n=N_k+1}^{\infty} f_{n}(x). $$ Observe that the inner sums $\sum_{n=N_k+1}^{\infty} f_{n}(x)$ are monotonically increasing functions of $x$, so $0 \leq g(x) \leq g(b) \leq 1$ for all $x \in [a,b]$, so $g$ is everywhere defined and monotonically increasing, too. Thus, $g$ is differentiable almost everywhere and your argument shows furthermore that $$ 0 \leq \sum_{k=1}^{\infty} \left(f'(x) - F_{N_k}^\prime(x)\right) \leq g'(x) $$ almost everywhere. Since the summands of a convergent series must tend to zero, this means that at these points $F_{N_{k}}^\prime (x) \to f'(x)$ as $k \to \infty$, as desired.
Note: I learned this argument from Fremlin, Measure Theory, Volume 2, Exercise 222Y a), page 62.