How to stop DVD drive from spinning?
Solution 1:
You could temporarily disable the drive in device manager...
Right-click / disable
Then re-enable it after a minute.
Solution 2:
Power off the laptop. Then power it back on - the drive will likely spin up as it boots (and possibly as windows loads to check what's on the disk) but then should come to a stop.
Then eject the disk :)
If it doesn't stop spinning even after a reboot, power off the laptop, and then use the paperclip hole to eject it once it's stopped spinning while being powered off.