Sending a reset in TCP/IP Socket connection

Turn the SO_LINGER socket option on and set the linger time to 0 seconds. This will cause TCP to abort the connection when it is closed, flush the data and send a RST. See section 7.5 and example 15.21 in UNP.

In python:

def client(host, port):
    s = socket.socket(socket.AF_INET, socket.SOCK_STREAM, 0)
    s.connect((host, port))
    l_onoff = 1                                                                                                                                                           
    l_linger = 0                                                                                                                                                          
    s.setsockopt(socket.SOL_SOCKET, socket.SO_LINGER,                                                                                                                     
                 struct.pack('ii', l_onoff, l_linger))
    # send data here
    s.close()

If you want to implement your own behavior over connections I think you should try using Scapy. It is a really useful library/tool. It lets you play with IP/TCP/UDP/ICMP packages.