Is it common to call our mother with ma'am in the western U.S? [closed]

Is it common to call our mother with ma'am in the western U.S.? Does it show how close our relationship is with our mother?

I have never heard of anyone in Western US call their actual mother, ma'am. Though you may be confusing this for another word mam. A northern British English word to mean one's mother. Or short hand for mammy (southern US).

OED says this entry for MAM:

NOUN

1. [British informal, dialect] One's mother.

‘my mam would have had a fit if I'd gone out dressed like that’

2. [US informal] A term of respectful or polite address used for any woman.

‘‘You all ride them horses down here?’, ‘Yes, mam.’’

_Origin

Mid 16th century (in mam (sense 1)): perhaps imitative of a child's first syllables (see mama); mam (sense 2) is a variant of ma'am.

What strikes me is that mam and ma'am are practically phonetically identical in American English (Source: Merriam-Webster pronounces 'ma'am' as [ˈmam , after "yes" often əm]).

OED describe this variant of ma'am in sense 2 of the origin.

Dialectblog also says in Mom, Mum, Mam: Different words?:

We have several informal words for “mother” in English: mum (heard in much of England), mom (heard in much of America), and mam (heard in Ireland and Northern England). But are these actually different words, or are they just, in some sense, the same word?

Although “mum,” “mam,” and “mom” read differently, they’re often pronounced in a very similar way. Here’s a comparison of three different dialects, and their “mom” pronunciations (don’t worry if you aren’t proficient in IPA — I’ll explain after):

London: “mum” — [mɐm]
General American: “mom” — [mɑm]
Manchester, UK: “mam” — [mam]

Whether you understand the IPA symbols above or not, the point is that in these three dialects, the words are quite close in pronunciation.

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MAM may not be referring to Ma'am

Archaically, mam may have been the short-handed form of mammy:

INFORMAL
a child's word for their mother.
"he was screaming for his mammy"

OFFENSIVE
(formerly in the southern United States)
a black nursemaid or nanny in charge of white children. (...)

(...) A mammy, also spelled mammie, is a U.S. stereotype, especially in the South, for a black woman who worked in a white family and nursed the family's children. The mammy figure is rooted in the history of slavery in the United States.

A Dictionary of Archaic and Provincial Words, Obsolete Phrases ..., Volume 2

Therefore as far as I am concerned, in Western US you don't call your mom, *ma'am. While it does mean any woman, you would get a spanking if you called your mom woman, wouldn't you? Even the textbook dictionary from OED says mam is a shorthand of ma'am in the US. However in other regions it has been used to mean mother or a mother like figure. In summary:

• In Northern England or some parts of the UK, it is fine to call your mum, mam or mammy. Even if it has archaic origin to the 16th century for an imitation of a baby's first word (mama), it's not uncommon for a few dialects to speak it in this sense today.
• Mam to mean mother (mammy) though in the US, particularly the South, is to be cautioned as it historically has been derogatory referring to a black woman nursing a white family's children. So even if you're saying ma'am, they won't be able to tell the difference if you're calling them a mam!
• You're more in lucky in Western US, where mam to mean mammy and not ma'am, is unheard of because they too won't be able to tell the difference!