How do you say "Come on, man" to a woman?

I've heard people saying phrases like down below.

"That's not cool, man"

"Dude, look at this"

"Hey, calm down, bro"

But these words are supposed to be said to a male person. (I could be wrong since I'm not an native English speaker) So what word do you use instead to say those phrases to a female person?

All three of these, man, dude, and bro, in about equal measure, are very informal, assume some familiarity, but are not rude or offensive. But their genderedness is different.

• 'man' is a bit of an interjection, and as such is mostly ungendered.

  Man, that's a big shark.

  or

  Look, man, we're gonna need a bigger boat.

  The speaker is not addressing to a male, it's just a pointed way of drawing attention to the statement. So you can use 'man' as an interjection without taking into account gender of those around you (in these informal contexts).

• 'dude' is nominally gendered and is usually used as a vocative for men, but can sometimes be used as such for women, though it is not an exact science.

  Dude, where's my car?

  'Dude' can be used for both genders, but still has a lot of maleness to it; it would seem a little strange if you were directing that at a woman. But it seems to be used more often these days with both genders.

  For women alternatives to dude, it is unclear.. There are nominal versions 'babe', 'chick', 'girl', 'hon' (for 'honey'), but these all (each in their own peculiar way) may be considered condescending (even if the intention is not). Don't use 'dudette'; that just sounds weird.

  So, you can probably use 'dude' for both genders, but it is a little questionable. I'd suggest you avoid it and just say 'hey' (but only at the beginning of a sentence, not at the end; really, nothing is simple in language).

• 'bro' is entirely a vocative intended for males. If you heard someone say this to an unknown person, you would be very surprised if they turned out to be female.

  Pass me some surf wax, bro.

  Don't use 'bro' for women.

For the latter two it is not clear exactly what the most appropriate alternatives for women are that match the same level of informality as 'dude' or 'bro'. There are words for groups of women: 'ladies', 'gals', 'girls', but they all have an old-fashioned connotation to them and condescending or paternalistic, especially if coming from a man.

Summary:

• no need to change 'man'
• for the others, 'dude', 'bro', 'pal', at the beginning of sentence use 'hey'. At the end, nothing.

Note: this is entirely for the informal General American English, unless otherwise noted. In some varieties, it is not uncommon to use nongendered vocatives that are terms of endearment with strangers, male or female: honey, sweetie, in Southern American English, 'love' in informal General British English.

Note 2: The sociolinguistics around these are complicated. Each term has its own nuances worth a lot more explanation (and research). This is a gross oversimplification.

You don't.

Instead, remove the unnecessary genderism:

"That's not cool."
"Look at this."
"Hey, calm down."

As a bonus, you are no longer using terms like "man", "dude" and "bro" to males, either, who do not assuredly appreciate being addressed in this "street" manner in the first place.

The best term is actually girl. Alternative words include sis and sister. I’ve also heard girlfriend though that’s more common among older people (~late 20s to 30s as opposed to teens and college-aged people).

“That’s not cool, man” → “That’s not cool sis.”

“Dude, look at this!” → “Girl, look at this!”

“Hey, calm down, bro” → “Sister. Calm down.”

Which words should be used and where in a sentence (and if they take a comma, double comma, period, or no punctuation at all) involves a lot of subtlety; it’s probably idiomatic. For example, don’t say

“Girlfriend, that’s not cool.”

“Look at this(,) girl!”†

“Hey, sis, calm down!”

Since you’re asking this question I will assume you’re not a “native” speaker, so I’d avoid trying to imitate it in your writing.

Edit:

Keep in mind that, just like dude, bro, etc are mainly used among groups of guys and their close female friends, girl, sis, etc are mainly used among groups of girls and their close male friends. Setting matters too. I wouldn’t imagine you’d use any of these terms in say, the workplace, regardless of who you’re talking to.

I can’t really think of any popular examples of specific cross-terms that a guy would use to address a girl or vice-versa. This is probably because men tend to hang out with other men and women tend to hang out with other women, so cross-terms have never really had a chance to develop. In my experience, people will use whatever set of words corresponds to the majority in the friend group, and use them to address everyone in the group, regardless of gender.

Also, although this isn’t exactly an answer, you can sidestep the issue by replacing the gendered terms with something like “yo” which sounds just as natural and casual.

“That’s not cool, man” → “Yo that ain’t cool.”

“Dude, look at this!” → “Yo, look at this!”

“Hey, calm down, bro” → “Yo. Calm down.”

Yo is only appropriate if you’re trying to address them and get their attention at the same time though. If you want to say something like “girl/bro lay off, I’ve had a real tough day,” you need the gendered terms.

† This can instead mean “I can’t believe this <person I don’t like> is actually doing that right now!!” if you omit the comma (for example if you’re texting) so most people put “girl” at the front to avoid that ambiguity and it spills back over into spoken language.

Using a male-gendered term to refer to females is highly regional.

For example, in the Northeastern U.S., it's normal for a teenage girl to approach a table full of other teenage girls and address them as "guys". I don't believe that usage would be considered normative in other parts of the English-speaking world (certainly not in most of the U.S.).

Similarly, most of these terms don't have female forms, at least not non-regional ones. "Girl" as suggested earlier, is close-ish to one, but it would never be used by many demographics (white women over 50 in most of the U.S., for example), and is widely considered rude when used by a man.

Without making the answer specific to a region or demographic, there's no very good answer to your question.

In my neighborhood, most (average) women don't like to be treated as "one of the guys". We expect and prefer to be treated like ladies. "Dude, guy, man, bro" -- when spoken to a lady, are considered low-class here. We might not complain, but you'll get a confused, disapproving, or disappointed look if you do it. It is always people who are not from here, who speak that way. Women are usually addressed as Ms. ___ or ma'am, here. FYI, just saying. (American South)