Similes and Metaphors - are similes a subset of metaphors?
The Wikipedia article on Metaphor agrees with your colleague:
Metaphor also denotes rhetorical figures of speech that achieve their effects via association, comparison or resemblance (e.g., antithesis, hyperbole, metonymy and simile, which are all types of metaphor).
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The article cites "The Oxford Companion to the English Language (1992) pp.653–55" as a reference for the above information, but I don't have access to that publication to verify the statement directly.
Edit: Well, it turns out that I do have access to that reference. Here it is, from p. 653, paragraph 2:
METAPHOR ... (1) All figures of speech that achieve their effect through association, comparison, and resemblance. Figures like antithesis, hyperbole, metonymy, simile are all species of metaphor.