One word to mean “the proper way of doing things”
Solution 1:
canonical
• accepted as being accurate and authoritative: the canonical method of comparative linguistics.
• according to recognized rules or scientific laws: canonical nucleotide sequences.
Other alternatives include: established, orthodox, standard, customary, prevailing.
Solution 2:
To begin with, it seems to me that simply saying "proper" would fit your example nicely, although I suppose a case could be made that it's not the most tactful choice.
Beyond that, if you're talking about something that is formally anointed as proper: official, canonical, recognized, orthodox.
If informally considered proper: traditional, customary, normal.
Solution 3:
You might get some mileage out of the warm fuzzies of optimal.
Solution 4:
By the book. It may not be one word, but it's still fewer syllables than canonical.