Change the order of servers in "Connect to Server" window?
This worked for me:
Open this file in XCode: ~/Library/Preferences/com.apple.sidebarlists.plist
Look inside the favoriteservers container. Drag the servers into your desired order.
Save the file.
Log out.
Log in.
Done.
Also! It sure looks like you have a separate value for Name and URL there! I haven't tried it but it certainly would be handy to have the list display human-readable values instead of stuff like afp://10.8.8.67