Shouldn't have got or gotten [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate:
Difference between “I have got” and “I have gotten”

In this example, my teacher thinks it should be got, but I feel like gotten is better:

I shouldn't have got / gotten married.

Which one is correct?

Solution 1:

NOAD has this usage note:

USAGE As past participles of get, the words got and gotten both date back to Middle English. In North American English, got and gotten are not identical in use. Gotten usually implies the process of obtaining something ( : he has gotten two tickets for the show), while got implies the state of possession or ownership ( : he hasn’t got any money).

That usage note may describe a difference, but it doesn't say much about usage with the word married. Is marriage the process of obtaining something? Or does it imply a state of possession? (One could wryly answer that this might depend on the local culture and marriage traditions.)

I'm inclined to agree with the teacher, although it seems like the simplest solution may be to drop the got/gotten altogether. "Get married" seems almost like a phrasal verb; i.e.:

We will get married next June.

is essentially the same as:

We will marry next June.

so the speaker could just as well say:

I never should have married.

Solution 2:

"I shouldn't have got married when I wasn't ready for it" "I shouldn't have got married on such a wet day", etc'. These are the more common usage with that one. 'I shouldn't have gotten married' is used when the sentence ends there.