What in a computer determines how much memory a memory address holds?
Solution 1:
Without going into the technical details (which I would get wrong anyway), the computer hardware itself is designed and built so that each address refers to a byte, or 2 bytes, or 4 bytes, or whatever. The operating system has no choice in the matter; it must be written to conform to the hardware design.
Most, probably all, computers running today are byte-addressable, and a byte is 8 bits. Past designs have been different.
The number of bits in an address determines the number of addresses. The number of bits stored at an address is specified by the design; there will be one pin and one line to carry the data. Multiply those numbers together to get the maximum number of bits that can be stored.
To answer your actual question: Is it the RAM itself - yes, CPU - yes, or something else - yes, the motherboard and chipset. All of these have to be designed to work together and they all have to agree on byte size and addressing.
Solution 2:
In the old days, processors had pins, and some of those were used to communicate with memory.
You had A pins, to specify an address, and D pins, to read or write data. A typical 8-bit processor of the early 80s would have pins D0 through D7 and A0 through A15. Meaning it could address up to 2^16 8-bit (D0 through D7) bytes of memory, or 64K. 16-bit CPUs would have sixteen D lines (the m68k is an example), and 32-bit CPUs (like the Pentium) would have thirty-two.
It's possible to have a 16-bit architecture with an 8-bit external bus, or 32-bit architecture with a 16-bit external bus - there are a multiple things that determine the "bit"-ness of a CPU and data width is just one of them. Internal architecture may still be different.
Looking at the pinout (though CPUs do not have "pins" anymore, the board has pins and the CPU now has "lands") of something recent like the Core i7 - things have changed. I'm not sure what things like DDR0_DQ[63] mean - the relation between CPU and memory is complex today due to caching, NUMA, and multi-core CPUs.
So it is a combination of the CPU architecture and the physical memory interface it uses that determines this.