How do you get the last paragon/renegade dialogue option towards the end of the game?

So I finally get to meet the Illusive Man, but the final 2 renegade/paragon option are greyed out! Here are my stats:

  • War Readiness > 5000
  • Max Reputation (90% Paragon, 10% Renegade)

However I still can't choose the Paragon/Renegade option. How do I do that?


Solution 1:

To end the standoff with the Illusive man via Charm / Intimidate, you need to have previously used Charm / Intimidate in every conversation with him.

There are 6 in total: Once on Mars, once on Thessia[1], once on the Cerberus Base, and three times in the final conversation on the Citadel.

The first three are hidden within left-side (investigate) branches of the dialog tree, and you can only use the final Charm / Intimidate if you have succeeded at all the previous 6.

The last paragon option will convince The Illusive Man to commit suicide, and the renegade interrupt will result in you shooting The Illusive Man before he shoots Anderson.

1: The Paragon/Renegade rewards for the Charm/Intimidate dialogue options on Thessia are switched around, so if you wish to maximize your Paragon points, you must choose Intimidate and vice versa. Doing so will not prevent you from convincing the Illusive Man at the end of the game.

Solution 2:

Like Saren in Mass Effect 1, you need to use Charm / Intimidate options every time they're available in your conversations with the Illusive man. Simply waiting till the end is a no go - you have to be actively convincing him he's wrong, every time you see him.

In Mass Effect 1, not doing this changed the difficulty from 8 Charm / Intimidate to 12 Charm / Intimidate (the max).

In Mass Effect 3, not doing this apparently makes the final Charm / Intimidate impossible.