Can I use multiple "with"?

Try:

With DependencedIncidents AS
(
    SELECT INC.[RecTime],INC.[SQL] AS [str] FROM
    (
        SELECT A.[RecTime] As [RecTime],X.[SQL] As [SQL] FROM [EventView] AS A 
        CROSS JOIN [Incident] AS X
            WHERE
                patindex('%' + A.[Col] + '%', X.[SQL]) > 0
    ) AS INC
),
lalala AS
(
    SELECT INC.[RecTime],INC.[SQL] AS [str] FROM
    (
        SELECT A.[RecTime] As [RecTime],X.[SQL] As [SQL] FROM [EventView] AS A 
        CROSS JOIN [Incident] AS X
            WHERE
                patindex('%' + A.[Col] + '%', X.[SQL]) > 0
    ) AS INC
)

And yes, you can reference common table expression inside common table expression definition. Even recursively. Which leads to some very neat tricks.

Yes - just do it this way:

WITH DependencedIncidents AS
(
  ....
),  
lalala AS
(
  ....
)

You don't need to repeat the WITH keyword