Why the need to update MacOS for iOS 14.5
Solution 1:
Similar Mac & OS, just saw the same notification - being prepared for it i followed through the Learn More… link to Apple KB - If you see "Software update is required to connect to your iOS device" on your iPhone, iPad or iPod touch
When you connect your iPhone, iPad or iPod touch to a Mac with macOS 10.11 or later, you might need to update the software on your Mac in order for it to recognise your iOS device. Learn what to do.
If your iPhone, iPad or iPod touch has a newer version of iOS than is supported by your Mac, you may see this alert: "A software update is required to connect to your iOS device. Would you like to download and install this update now?"
Click Install to download and install the software so your Mac can update or sync your iOS device. If you continue to see this alert, make sure that your software on your Mac and iTunes are up-to-date.
From comments - softwareupdate --history | head
may help figure out what was updated.
I tried it on mine, though I'd also run the new security & Safari updates. There was one other item shown as updated with a timestamp that matches my iOS update, though to version 1.0.0.0 which doesn't seem greatly helpful.
macOS Mojave Security Update 2021-003 10.14.6 27/04/2021, 7:53:05 pm
Safari 14.1 27/04/2021, 7:53:05 pm
Mobile Device 1.0.0.0 27/04/2021, 4:46:37 pm