How do I change the default height of a BottomSheetDialog?

You can set a bottomSheetDialogTheme in your Activity, overriding the bottomSheetStyle attribute's behavior_peekHeight:

<style name="AppTheme" parent="Theme.AppCompat.Light.DarkActionBar">
  <item name="bottomSheetDialogTheme">@style/AppBottomSheetDialogTheme</item>
</style>

<style name="AppBottomSheetDialogTheme"
       parent="Theme.Design.Light.BottomSheetDialog">
  <item name="bottomSheetStyle">@style/AppModalStyle</item>
</style>

<style name="AppModalStyle"
       parent="Widget.Design.BottomSheet.Modal">
  <item name="behavior_peekHeight">@dimen/custom_peek_height</item>
</style>

This same technique can be used for other attributes as well, such as adding <item name="behavior_hideable">true</item> to the AppModalStyle to change whether the bottom sheet is hideable.

you can use BottomSheetBehaviorin your code

BottomSheetDialog dialog = new BottomSheetDialog(content);
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dialog.setContentView(view);
BottomSheetBehavior mBehavior = BottomSheetBehavior.from((View) view.getParent());
mBehavior.setPeekHeight(your dialog height)
dialog.show();

styles.xml

<style name="BottomSheetDialog" parent="Theme.Design.Light.BottomSheetDialog">
    <item name="bottomSheetStyle">@style/bottomSheetStyleWrapper</item>
</style>

<style name="bottomSheetStyleWrapper" parent="Widget.Design.BottomSheet.Modal">
    <item name="behavior_peekHeight">500dp</item>
</style>

BottomSheetDialog dialog = new BottomSheetDialog(this, R.style.BottomSheetDialog);
            dialog.setContentView(R.layout.layout_bottom_sheet);
            dialog.show();