Would rather that ... than (to) do

I know the right structure is "would rather do something than do something," but when would rather is followed by a clause, what is the correct grammar? Should there be a "to" before the verb in the following sentence?

I would rather that you wash it yourself than (to) see mom do it for you.

Solution 1:

I would not use "to". It is not incorrect, the verb "to see" can be used in this context, but it splices the sentence and from a subjective perspective, makes the sentence rather clunky, especially if "that" is also used. Examples of everyday use:

I would rather see you wash it yourself than see your mum do it for you.

I would rather that you washed it yourself than see your mum wash it for you.

I'd prefer if you washed it yourself than if you asked your mum to wash it for you.

In order to make the "to" work, break up with a comma splice:

I'd rather that you washed it yourself than see your mum wash it for you.