What do you call the period between having sex?
If a couple are having a romantic or sexy get away where they're staying in bed and having sex and otherwise hanging out - is there a term use for the periods where they're not actually in the act of having sex?
Perhaps pillow talk is the closest term I can think of here - but this seems to refer to the act of just talking, whereas I'd like to encompass anything else they might do - like eating, watching TV etc.
eg.
During [something period] we had a tickle fight, I organised my to do list, and she knitted some socks.
I'm looking for something you might use in a romance or sexy novel.
You can consider refractory period.
In human sexuality, the refractory period is usually the recovery phase after orgasm during which it is physiologically impossible for a man to have additional orgasms.
Though it is generally reported that women do not experience a refractory period and can thus experience an additional orgasm (or multiple orgasms) soon after the first, some sources state that both men and women experience a refractory period because women may also experience a moment after orgasm in which further sexual stimulation does not produce excitement.
Wikipedia
OED has a gender-neutral definition:
Psychol. a period after orgasm during which further sexual arousal or orgasm is difficult or impossible.
In a novel I've read, I've come across the word "afterglow" used in the context of post-orgasmic contentment. I thought it was an excellent non-technical euphemism for this as opposed to a dry clinical phrase like "refractory period".
The word afterglow is defined by Merriam-Webster (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/afterglow) as:
afterglow noun af·ter·glow \ˈaf-tər-ˌglō\
: a glowing light remaining in the sky after the sun has set
: a happy feeling that remains after a successful or emotional event
and we're closest to the second meaning here.
It doesn't necessarily imply the partners are going to go at it again (as in an interlude between bouts of intercourse - which you seemed to imply in your question), but I still think it's the best literary word for what you want to express.
"Postcoitus" is a bit odd, very clinical and only works for a brief period of time immediately after sexual intercourse. Since it is a technical term, it is worth noting that the formative word, "Coitus" strictly refers to the act that involves union of both male and female genitalia. Considering the preceding factors, it applications may be of limited use in amorous writing. However, excepting the adjective form "Postcoital", it is the only such word I can bring to mind now that uncompromisingly refers to the period after the act and nothing else.
The above reference links are to the The Free Dictionary by Farlex, which cites:
postcoitus/coitus. (n.d.) The American Heritage® Medical Dictionary. (2007)
postcoital. (n.d.) Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged. (1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003)
You might call it "the recovery period"
In medicine, after intense physical activity, it's the period of time needed for the heart to slow down and the blood pressure return to normal levels. Applied to sexual activity, it might be the period of time between the last orgasm and the moment both partners feel like getting into action again.
Assuming it was steamy passionate sex, a metaphorical use of cool down:
- Fig. to reduce someone's passion or love. (Reducing the "heat" of passion.)
McGraw-Hill Dictionary of American Idioms and Phrasal Verbs
After three hot rounds of mad passionate sex, they decided to get dressed and cool down with a round of golf.