A single word for "hurting of one's pride"
I would use "deflate".
e.g. I knew I had done an amazing job so I was really deflated when it was criticized.
To address some of the other suggestions
- chagrined: is really the right word but isn't as frequent in daily use
- galled: has an element of disgust at something else, not yourself, I feel
- frustrated: possibly conveys too much anger
- humbled: too mellow :-)
- insulted: is the active part of the situation rather than the consequent feeling
I would use galling.
fig. Irritating, offensive to the mind or spirit. [OED]
irritating, exasperating, or bitterly humiliating [Collins]
Your example:
You telling me that my question asking abilities are poor is very galling.
Another example from Google Books:
It is very galling to the pride of our troops to submit to such continued defeat, when they believe the man of their choice could lead them on to victory.
Camp and Prison Journal by Griffin Frost
The word that came to mind when reading your question about a word to describe hurt pride was:
humbling
humble:
to make (someone) humble in spirit or manner
The above definition of the verb humble uses the adjective humble in its definition, which is defined as "not proud". So in essence, when you humble someone, you diminish their pride (if they had any).
"You telling me that my question asking abilities are poor is very humbling"
Humble seems to fit your question well, because the word has a direct connection to the concept of pride. The word humble (as well as humiliate) has its roots in the latin words
- humilis: lowly, literally "on the ground"
- humus: earth, soil
This post has more on humble's history of use.
Another meaning of the verb is “to lower in dignity, position, condition, or degree; to bring low, abase.”
The OED’s first citation for this sense of the word comes from William Caxton’s 1484 translation of Aesop’s Fables: “The prowde shall be allway humbled.”
Another example is Matthew 23:11-12 (New International Version)
The greatest among you will be your servant. For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
I would say your original choice of "crestfallen" describes the feeling perfectly; it's how I felt when I let stagefright choke me to death at my first real band (vocal) audition. Also, "despondent" ("The review left me despondent,"), "heartsore" ("The dissection of my every thought and nuance left me heartsore,"), and maybe "ravaged" ("My soul was ravaged with every hateful word...") depending on your creative license....
Upon re-reading your question more carefully, for a present tense word that might fit (ish) that sentence, perhaps "soul-rending" ("Their critique was soul-rending, and I shall never be the same,"), or maybe "debilitating" ("Their harsh words were debilitating to my once-flowering artistic spirit,"), or even "demoralizing" - meaning to deprive a person of spirit or purpose, and strongly implying a loss of hope and desire to move forward...