How can I load the standard wireless driver after I deinstall ndiswrapper?
Firstly, make sure your hardware's driver isn't blacklisted in /etc/modprobe.d/*. It would appear with "blacklist " prepended on a line, e.g., "blacklist wl" (if your driver is wl). Secondly, installing linux-backports-modules-wireless-maverick-generic should suffice after a reboot (provided that the appropriate driver isn't blacklisted and that you're using 10.10/Maverick).
the solution was to use modprobe with the right modulename so if anyone has the problem use:
sudo modprobe yourmodulenameforyourwificard